This three-part series will focus on our Saturn cycles as three different Acts in our life. The series is inspired by an interview of Jane Fonda by Oprah, where Fonda said that she is in Act III of her life. For women, we’ll be looking at these Acts as our Maiden, Mother, or Crone Days.
Saturn naturally plays a pivotal role throughout our life and ushers in a new phase of life when it returns to its original spot in our natal chart. Each of Saturn’s whirls through the entire zodiac takes about 29½ years ~ plenty of time to begin, fully experience, and release a major phase of our life.
Saturn, Act I
During Act 1 ~ till we’re about 30 years old ~ we’re just growing up. Some of us have a great childhood and some are not so lucky. We develop our ideas about how the world treats us and how we are to treat others. If there’s a misfire ~ bad parenting, unusually harsh circumstances in childhood, or early physical trauma ~ our view of the world will be colored very differently from our peers who didn’t have harsh experiences, also known as the lucky ones.
By the time we turn 30, we’re at the crossroads. Some of us commit at this time ~ to a person through marriage, to a career, or to a new lifestyle. We may abandon a life track altogether. It’s not unusual to go home, back to where we were raised. A return to the childhood home at this time may mean that the world isn’t what we thought it was going to be, or we might decide that we were on the wrong path and want to get back to basics, back to our roots. Some folks make major moves ~ if not back home, away from home, across the country or to a new country altogether. We’re looking for something in our lives to anchor us, and we haven’t found it where we are now.
We see this expressed as the “oh, they turned 30″ syndrome ~ when people do strange things out of “nowhere.” It’s not “nowhere.” It’s the realization that the path we’re on isn’t satisfying, it won’t fulfill. Something ain’t right, so we set out on a new path to try and make it right. Sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn’t.
And there are plenty of us who are happy exactly where we are, like the track we’re on, and recommit to it. We can build on our successes so far.
For women, these are our maiden days.
We’re young, desirable, and fruitful. When we come of age, we are the vessel for new life, the next generation, the continuance of the human race. We are the New Moon, full of hope for the future, on our way toward manifesting a beautiful tomorrow.
Media and peer pressure demands that we look a certain way ~ usually based on impossible standards. Most of us don’t travel with a magic airbrush and fans to make our hair billow in the breeze, however, and find that the “real” world ~ if there is such a thing ~ can be impossible to measure up to. We might forget about the pressures for a while, but for most the pressures linger in our self-esteem and psyches, and often manifests as self-loathing for our bodies in some way. I don’t think I’ve ever met a woman who was completely satisfied with her looks.
Many of us begin families, becoming new mothers. Others delay motherhood for advanced degrees and careers. Some don’t want to be mothers at all, and some suffer terribly because they can’t be mothers. As the biological and sociological clocks tick, we define who we are, who we are becoming, and what we will give birth to.
As the curtain closes on Act I, we’re at the crossroads. Is this good enough? Is there something better? How you answer determines your course for years to come. We step over the line and enter our Mother Days.
What is something about your Maiden Days that defines the woman you are today?