Aloofness is one of the Water Bearer’s less charming traits. It underscores more negative Aquarian traits like cold, detached, unfeeling and unsociable. Yes, Aquarius can be quite unsociable even though it’s one of the social (air) signs.
We all have Aquarius in our chart so it would be unlikely that one of us hasn’t had an attitude of aloofness toward at least one person at some time in our life. Maybe it arises when you see an old classmate who mistreated you back in the day. Maybe you create it as a barrier when a fellow passenger takes the seat next to you on the plane or toward a family member who really irks you.
I use aloofness to protect my feelings, to keep from getting hurt. It doesn’t really work, though. Pretending not to care hasn’t ever solved a thing. It just turns the temperature down on an already icy world.
Does anyone remember that old dating advice to act like you’re not interested? Who can resist what we “can’t” have?
- When do you get aloof? What’s the trigger?
- How does it protect you?
- Have you ever snubbed someone as payback for snubbing you?
- Can you be friendly and aloof at the same time?
- How do you respond to aloofness in other people?
If you’d warned me you were coming this morning, I would have worn my armory,” she told him with chilling aloofness. ~ Janet Dailey, The Master Fiddler